These are stressful and crazy times we are in! I don’t think any of us could have predicted a couple of months ago that the coronavirus would have the effect is has today. Life has completely changed for everyone, in many ways it will likely be permanently changed. Borders and businesses closing, orders to stay at home, and the growing number of COVID-19 cases and deaths has everyone anxious and worried about an uncertain future.
With all these challenges, it’s hard to take care of ourselves and our mental health, but it’s also very necessary if we are going to get through this. Connecting with others, getting support, and having fun are all hard to do while “social distancing” and being quarantined at home. I’m hopeful this blog post will give you some ideas for ways you can still enjoy your kinks, let off some steam, connect to others, and have a necessary release from our worrisome day-to-day.
As someone who has been kinky all my life, I understand the role of BDSM as a therapeutic escape from the stresses of vanilla life. Regularly playing with submissives and kinksters has helped me develop more peace, calm, and joy, things we could all use more of now. But how can we engage when we aren’t even supposed to be 6ft from each other?
SOLO-PLAY: The safest way to play at the moment is with yourself! There are plenty of kinky activities you can do on your own. Now is the perfect time to wear some fetish clothing, maybe your favorite pair of slutty panties or latex bottoms, and have some fun exploring with toys in your bedroom. Have fun with it! Consider taking photos of videos of yourself to watch later or send to a consenting play partner. Just be sure not to engage with any activities that could land you in the ER, especially given the strain our medical system is under with COVID-19 patients. Toys specifically made for anal/vaginal insertion should be the only things going in your ass or vagina! Objects that don’t have a flared base can get lost inside of you! It’s also not recommended to explore breath play on your own, so please no autoerotic asphyxiation while solo-playing in quarantine.
Staying at home is also the perfect time to enjoy some kinky porn. If you are committed to ethically consuming porn, then you should be buying it directly from the performers. Many Dommes have clips sites with tons of BDSM videos for purchase. You can find mine at AvivaAddict.com. I have loads of femdom clips ranging from foot fetish, to slave training, to chastity- plenty to keep you entertained for days. Masturbation is good for your immune system, so don’t feel bad if you do it several times a day. Many performers also have Onlyfans accounts with exclusive photos and videos to entertain and entice you, great content for being stuck at home. See my exclusive content here. Reading or writing erotic fiction and stories is another way to engage your mind in BDSM while in quarantine. You can also browse kinky art online or even try to make some yourself. Anything to get your mental (and physical) juices flowing and take your mind of coronavirus for while.
CONNECTING WITH OTHERS: If you’re really craving connection with your kink, but are quarantined alone or not play partners with your quarantine buddies, there are still plenty of ways to have fun while maintaining social distancing. Try connecting with a play partner via phone or skype, enjoying the sound or sight of them while not directly touching. You can even use texts to give or receive kinky tasks throughout the day to spice things up. Imagine the thrill of having your Domme command you to put on panties and text her a video of you sucking a dildo for her amusement. We can all get creative with technology as a tool.
As a lifestyle and prodomme, I use technology to connect with subs when we can’t meet in-person. I use sextpanther to text them throughout the week, sometimes sending teasing videos or discussing naughty things I want to do to them. I love when my subs and admirers call me to have phone sessions, but it’s even better when we arrange for a video session so I can watch as they complete tasks while I tease them. If you’re interested in setting up a skype session, just email me at goddessaviva@gmail.com to get rates and schedule it. We are fortunate to have this kind of technology during a pandemic like this, which makes it possible to connect and have kinky fun without having to be in the same room, or even the same country!
However you decide to engage, remember that doing something kinky can be a necessary mental break from the madness of the world right now, and it’s important to be taking care of sexual and mental health just as much as our physical health. We are all in this together. Stay safe and remember that it’s ok to allow yourself to have some fun! Feel free to tweet at me on twitter (@goddessaviva) and tell me some of the ways you’re getting kinky while quarantined.